GROW UP!!
January 11, 2006 @ 12:29 p.m.

Living with my nephew has been stressful. I can honestly say that his and my relationship will not be like it once was a year or years ago. With discussing things that needs to be done around the house, he gives me an attitude. I bring up the fact that he does it for other people without any crap and that he used to do it before he moved in with me. He says that I've changed how I ask him. I tell him that he now lives with me and the things that I would ask him to do is something that he nows HAS to do. And it upsets me that I need to ask him to do anything. He brought up how my other sister doesn't get upset about things like I do. Well, her and my situation at home are WAY different. He said that she never got on him like I do with his grades. Well, I've about got to the point where I don't want to talk about any of this to any of the family because I have my opinions about what should be done and how. My mother tells me not to be "TOO HARD". I don't think I need to explain to a child why he needs to do his homework. And I don't think I need to remind him EVERY night that he needs to sit down and do it. We live in tim-buck-to, and sports are the only things he has to look forward to. I try and be "cool" and let him do things, he's still punished for his grades, but he still messes up. He's still getting an F in Geography, and he figures he's not going to be around to use it. I'm trying to be fair, but on the other hand, I'm getting REALLY tired of having to tell him to do things. Last night I told him that I'm tired of walking into the bathroom and seeing empty TP rolls on the floor. This morning I go into his bathroom and there's 2 empty rolls and a full one next to the bath tub. He's not listening. Although I know that it needed to be done for other reasons, but I don't think that we should have moved him in with us. Seeing how things are with him, he hasn't changed one bit. He wanted to better himself and have his own place, and he is still doing the same thing that he was doing last year. He tells us that he appreciates the things that we do for him and then he acts like an @ss the same day. I love him dearly, but I think come the end of his Freshman year...if he doesn't straighten up, he's going to have to go back home with his mom and brother. We didn't have this child, we made an agreement and he's not owning up to his side of things. Although he is VERY intellegent, there are things that a kid is not suppose to be told. If I was to sit down and discuss this with his mom, she would tell him. He would then think that we don't "WANT" him there, which is not the case. If his attitude would change about the whole thing and grow up, then I wouldn't be stressed about the whole thing. I told his mother that if he doesn't get passing grades in order to full-fill his requirements by the courts, we're going to have to pay the full fine. If that happens, he IS going back with his mom regardless of how he feels. She told him. He comes back from visiting with an attitude towards us. It's not my fault that he's not doing his work. It's not my fault that his grades are what they are. I printed off some information on Buddism back in November for a report for him. Come to find out it's due today. He never did it. He told me that he had all the information that he needed and that he's almost done. LIAR!!! Then when I bring up that he lies to me. He says that he doesn't lie to the other sister. I asked why do you lie to me, he said because I don't trust him. I said that's because you lied to me. He said that the other sister gives him the benefit of the doubt. I said I've tried, but you don't do what you said you were going to do. He said that once this semester is done, that he's going to do better. Well once again, we'll see. He said, see you don't think I'll do it. I said, no I didn't say that, I said we'll see. If I didn't think that he would I'd say yeah right.
Anyways, some of the family reads this, and I really don't want any comments of how I need to deal with him and what I should or shouldn't say to him. If I want advise I ask. And this is not a request for advise. I hope that everything turns out for the best, because with how my other nephew dealt with leaving us and the trash talk about what we did and how we didn't help him with his school work, we speak to him but not like we did before. It's more of the tone of "What do you want". Sad, but he took advantage of a situation and when things didn't go his way he got mad, left, and talked crap. Now things aren't ROSEY at home with mom and he's trying to be nice again. Fellas it's not a party, this life of ours. People go to High School and think they can hang out with their friends and not do their school work. They think that it's one big party. Then if they're lucky and some how get into college, that's another big party. And then you wonder why our country is so messed up. You have people who went through life cutting corners and expecting other people to pick up the crap, well I'm tired of picking up other peoples' crap, it's time for people to be responsible and grow the fuck up.

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