An answer
October 11, 2006 @ 12:25 p.m.

If I wanted answers about dad I would call my mother. I've asked several times in the past not to send spam emails and it never happened. Over the past several months I've been getting stress over things that I don't have anything to do with. Taking care of grandma was your mother's decision, I commend her for taking on the challenge. I don't like having to go through your mom to try and contact you. I don't need to tell someone else what I want to say and then explain what's going on. So, that is why I said what I did. You were the one who gave the ultamadum, that it's both or none. That's like me saying that you need to get with my mom and get to know each other, it's both or none, it's not going to happen. I'm sorry if it hurts her feelings, but I don't like the way I need to explain myself... on anything. You say 2 sisters, whatever, I'm not mad at either one of you. I'm not severing loose ends either. If anything bad were to happen to you I would cry, you are my sister. But the way that your mother comes across drives me nuts. About the moms and our dad's relationships. Whatever. That was dropped a LONG time ago. Back when we had the family site. 2 separate relationships that ended YEARS ago. Both women are now married. In regards to letting the past go. In order to understand "you" or "I", or "they" you must know your history. Why am I the way that I am? If we do not know the history, we don't know us. That's like saying we shouldn't talk to grandma to know our grandfather. That's over 40+ years ago. I'm no longer angry in regards to dad. He and I have a great relationship now. I have gone over there several times and he would be asleep and I would visit with LA and our cousins. It's good that you sat down and wrote how you feel, it's a great way to vent out. Just because I chose not to take "BOTH", that's not a reason to stop getting to know the other 2. What type of person does that make you?
Yes, I love you too. And I will always be here learking, just like you. You are my sister and just because there's a bump in the road it will never change a sister's love. I don't know you mom, therefore I don't have any feelings towards her. I believe that she is a good person because of the person that you have grown into. But she's not someone that I want to get to know. I'm sure that you won't understand why, because she is your mother and I don't expect you too. Good luck with your new relationship from what you write all is well. I understand your side and I hope you understand mine.
Love to all.

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